Conflicts by Edward De Bono

Author:Edward De Bono
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Ebury Publishing

Moment to Moment

In Chapter 10 I wrote about the ‘tension of hostility’ and used the image of two tug-of-war teams, neither of which dared relax the tension for a moment. In Northern Ireland none of the parties involved dares relax its hostility towards the other parties for a single moment because at that moment the party would instantly be condemned by its supporters as having ‘gone soft’.

In the resolution of any conflict this moment-to-moment continuity is most important. When is the ‘break’ going to come? How are steadfast positions ever going to be abandoned? It is just possible to conceive of a position being exchanged for another equally advantageous position but it is very difficult for a position to be abandoned so that the first tentative steps of exploration can be made towards a designed outcome.

‘I am locked in. What can I do?’

That is a common plea of any negotiator.

The solution is for the third party (in triangular thinking) to make the break with continuity while the parties apparently hold fast to their positions.

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